Almost every woman has fantasized about or even planned their dream weddings while waiting on their Prince Charming come, propose, and whisk them away to happily ever after land. I too am guilty of this, and you know what, I blame those damn Disney movies we watched as a kid. In real life, that dream wedding is gonna cost you a good piece of coin, and for some for you, it might throw your ass in debt with the quickness.
When I moved out of my parents’ house and moved in with my then boyfriend almost six years ago, living on our own definitely got real. Our living expenses added up to the point where we mutually decided that whenever we got married, our local courthouse would be our venue. Everyone wasn’t pleased with this decision, but we could care less because none of these folks were throwing coins our way to pay for the wedding they thought we should have.
Sometimes having the wedding of your dreams isn’t financially possible, and in my opinion, it’s a waste of time and money for just one day. To each it’s own, but let me give you a glimpse into my wedding day to prove that you can have a fantastic wedding without ending up on a bill collector’s call list.
We invited our closest friends and family to the Annapolis Courthouse in Annapolis, MD because it actually had a cute chapel with pews that could hold 30 guests. We applied for our marriage license about two weeks before our wedding day, and it cost $55. The fee for the civil ceremony was $25. Bruh, it only cost $80 total for us to get married. I can spend that much on dinner and drinks on a Friday night easily. No, like for real.
Although our wedding didn’t take place in the most trendy venue, we decided that we still wanted to look the part of a bride and groom. I bought a cute little white dress from ASOS, some glittery gold flats from Payless, and these super cute two-tiered earrings from Glamorous Plain Jane. Mike (my hubby) already had a gray suit, so he paired it with a checkered purple and white shirt accented with a purple tie and purple knit flower he ordered from Etsy. Don’t we look nice? LOL
Once all of our guests arrived at the courthouse, there was a couple getting married before us, but we didn’t mind the short wait because it gave us time to socialize and take selfies. When it was our time to tie the knot, we walked into the chapel, stood in front of everyone, said our vows, exchanged rings, and kissed all in a matter of what seemed like six minutes. Listen, that was the best part! Well, not better than officially spending the rest my life with my boo, but y’all know what I mean. Mike and I took more pictures around Downtown Annapolis with my friend Dominique of Create It Photography and then went to eat (and drink) at a restaurant nearby with some friends. Our wedding was literally the easiest and simplest wedding ever, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Did we have a reception you ask? Well, we had a gathering for about 75 people in the evening. We only paid $125 for the space, which had a cozy loungy feel. My mother-in-law cooked the food, which was damn good. A friend of Mike’s made our cake and other sweet treats. Mike and I supplied the drinks, and everyone had a great time! Sure, Mike and I spent a tiny bit of money, but if you consider we didn’t pay any catering and event planning fees on top of our very inexpensive venue, we made out like bandits.
If you are considering having a courthouse wedding, just know I think you’re smart as shit for thinking sensibly, even if no one else thinks you are. Bruh, you can’t beat paying $25 for a wedding ceremony. Definitely check with your state and local courthouse to see how much their licensing and ceremonies are. If you want to have a reception after your courthouse wedding, consider non-traditional venues, such as art galleries and luxury apartment building clubhouses, or anywhere where you aren’t obligated to use catering services and have liquor licenses. Save that money for something else, like purchasing a home, seeing the world, saving up for your children’s college fund, or starting a business. Seriously!
If you are interested, check out the #mosbygang2014 hashtag on Instagram to see a few more pics from my wedding day. It was everything!