Sitting at home for the last nine months has given me plenty of time to put the attainability of my dreams and goals into perspective. Yes, of course I’m working, but during my down time, I’m always thinking of and plotting ways to live my best life personally and professionally.
Once I identify the changes I need to make in order to propel my business and overall life to the next level, I’m instantly reminded of how much of an introvert I am. Being an introvert isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but I will admit it might be hindering my growth.
Just so y’all are aware, the phrase “I don’t feel like being bothered” pretty much sums up my entire being. I actually say that a lot. Ask my friends. LOL
It’s not that I don’t like to interact with people. I do actually, but the process can be draining at times.
I can’t stand networking events
I know that I can not grow my business or blog solely by hiding out in my home and making shit happen on my sofa. Getting out and meeting other people, whether bloggers or entrepreneurs, allows me to build a network that could end up being beneficial for me down the line.
Yes, I know all of this, BUT I am not one who can just freely walk up to folk and start chatting away. I’m also not one who enjoys lurking around others having conversations that I’m really not interested in and forcing my two cents in. It’s just awkward as fuckkk.
I prefer meaningful conversations with people who are truly welcoming. Unfortunately, many networking events I have attended were a waste of time due to the lack of genuine energy, hence why I don’t like to attend them now. There’s nothing worse than attending an event where I know I have to force myself to interact in order to feel like I didn’t waste an outfit or gas.
Shit, just take me to a bar. I make more connections there.
You don’t have to know everybody. You just need to know the right people.
I recently saw this on my client’s social media, and I completely and wholeheartedly approve this message. As a proud introvert, one thing I’m extremely good at is assessing the vibes of folks I meet. Within a short time frame, I’m able to determine whether I can rock with someone or not. The determining factors are authenticity, common interest, and true connection.
I don’t have a lot of friends, and my circles are super small. However, I consider myself to be surrounded by some of the dopest, most talented, and most honest people. Not only do they support me, but they also inspire and motivate me to be my best self. You can’t ask for anything better than that.
With that said, I don’t feel the need to build some huge network of random people I’ve met just because. Sure, these people may be able to help me get where I want to be, but I’m not going to fake the funk just to find out. If we’re meant to connect, we will.
I definitely have a love/hate with social media
Here, I’m getting a little more into my #bloggerstruggle. I am a blogger who doesn’t really like social media. I won’t say I hate it because there are definitely times where the innanet comes through for a great chuckle that is shareworthy in texts. I also don’t mind sharing pieces of my life on these various platforms. Notice the emphasis on pieces because y’all don’t see everything.
I can’t forget how easy it is for me to interact with others on these platforms, which makes meeting social media friends in person less of an ordeal. Plus, the accounts I follow are some that I’m truly interested in following.
What you won’t see me do on social media (aka things I dislike about social media) is:
- post multiple times a day, erryday,
- strategically plan posts for specific Instagram columns,
- get a group of friends to do formation photoshoots in the middle of the street,
- buy followers,
- damn near fall off a cliff to be featured on a popular travel account,
- shame my kids for likes,
- post flat lays of things I wouldn’t really own in real life, but it’s cute for the gram,
- promote products I don’t use or like for a check,
- and other fuckery I don’t quite understand, but apparently get folks one hell of a following.
While I definitely see the value of social media for promotion and representing one’s brand or blog, I just feel like perpetrating perfection and narcissism is highly celebrated over authenticity. There are some perfectly curated accounts and folks out here just living for the Gram, and the introvert in me is just like NAH. I just can’t commit myself to doing what seems like everyone else is doing. So I don’t.
Lately, I really have been trying to make an effort to post Instastories when I travel, but I really feel like it takes away from my own experience. As a result, I don’t post them often. I actually don’t post that much on any social media platform, even though bloggers are advised to post consistently to gain a following. Eh… I can’t commit.
At this point, I think the major challenge for me is trying to make subtle changes in these areas while maintaining and living in my truth. I mean, I have really come a long stress-free way in my 32 years by being an introvert. Where is the common ground? Like, are there ways for me to connect with others that I know of and admire from a far without feeling like an awkward chick if I attempt to? How do I continue to build a strong and engaged following on my blog and social media accounts sans all of the frills and strategies/gimmicks?
Are any of you introverts who have mastered the world of networking and social media? Feel free to share your experiences and tips below!