During a time where I felt like I have so much to accomplish, but no time to make all of these things happen, I ran across a tweet from blogger Mattie James that simply stated “Most of us don’t need more time; we need more discipline.” Well if that wasn’t a word that came at the right time, I don’t know what is! Y’all, I really needed to see this message. As a result, I took advantage of my couple of days of down time with work last week and evaluated the lack of discipline in my life.
As I sit here writing this post, I realize all I juggle on a daily basis, including the following:
- running my business
- managing my home
- being a wife
- raising and supporting these kids
- building a successful blog
- redecorating my home
- maintaining some kind of social life.
- dealing with unexpected shit that just pops up
Of course, I could take this list and go into great detail, but you get the picture.
I’ll admit the majority of the little energy I have goes to running my business, which means a lot of my daily tasks fall by the wayside. I definitely know I need to get these things done, but I tend just to blow them off because the discipline I need to have isn’t there. Then, by the end of the week when I think of everything I have on my plate, my anxiety starts creeping up. I’m sure most of you know feeling like you’re drowning is never good.
I can also admit that I am a severe procrastinator. I have been for as long as I can remember, but I’ve always found a way to get shit done. Well, I’m tired of just finding a way. I just want to get things done with no issues. I know I have a lot going on, but I believe I am able to manage everything I need to accomplish. I mean, I witness other women balancing the many facets of their lives all the time. If they can do it, so can I.
Below are five changes I need to incorporate in my life ASAP to help me conquer my goals and take my life back at once.
1. Stick to my work schedule.
I’ve established work hours for my business a while ago. My challenge has been adhering to those hours in order to focus on my other tasks or simply spend time with Mike and/or the kids. I can’t tell you how many days I’ve been glued to my Macbook for hours and hours just working. I am proud to say that lately, I’ve been making a conscious effort to cut myself off at 4pm daily, but I need to make sure I keep this up.
2. Plan and write down my tasks each morning.
Normally, I don’t have a problem handwriting a to-do list to manage all of my tasks for my biz because I know how effective it is in keeping me organized. Although I’m fully aware that I’m the type of person who needs to jot my thoughts and ideas down on paper in order to be productive, I’ve never thought about writing a list of my everyday tasks. If I did, I was probably too lazy to physically do it. Sad right?
Obviously, it makes sense for me to think about all of my personal tasks I’d like to accomplish in a day and write them down first thing in the morning. Then prioritizing these tasks according to importance and date/time of completion is needed to ensure I really get the shit done.
3. Follow through.
Now THIS! This right here?! THIS is my constant struggle… actually doing what the hell I say I’m going to do. When that laziness trait I have peak over my shoulder, whatever I need to do almost always manage to get done days later. This is simply unacceptable to me now, especially since I realize my procrastinating really hurts me in the long run. I need the days of frantically scrambling to do something that should have been done to be over.
I just have to commit to doing what I say I’m going to do when I say I’m going to do it. Point blank.
4. Eliminate Distractions
While evaluating myself and trying to understand why I just can’t get things done, I realize there are some things I consume that are distractions. Well, really there’s one distraction that spans many platforms, and that’s social media. While I have a love/hate relationship with social media, I’ve found a way to cultivate my timelines to only show me posts that are going to inspire and motivate me. I tend to scroll these timelines when I need to take breaks from working or have down time. In all reality, this is probably the time I should be getting shit done.
5. Practice self-care.
I know a lot of folks who are entrepreneurs pride themselves on working all day and staying up all night, which is what they equate to grinding. I call this burn out. I understand putting in the time running a business or working on some type of venture, but I will not be up all night doing it. I know myself. I can not be productive working off of little to no sleep.
Eating well, also plays a large role in the amount of energy I have. When I eat like crap, I feel like crap, and that equates to me never wanting to do anything. I’ve started incorporating daily smoothies into my diet, and that has help me tremendously. I equate that boost of energy to completing some home projects I’ve been wanting to do forever.
I know I need to start incorporating exercise into my daily regimen. Yeah, this is one more thing added to my long list of things to do, but I know first hand how I felt when I was exercising on a regular basis. And honestly, I could use all the energy I can get.
So yes, I seriously need a change in my life. I really believe committing to these five changes will help me have much more discipline in order to accomplish everything I want and need to do. One thing I’ve learned since working for myself is in order to be successful, I have to be intentional and strategic, and that has been working. Now, I need to stop playin’ and apply that same logic to the other facets of my life. I got this!
What are some ways you are remaining disciplined and successfully managing the many facets of your life? I’d love to know. Please comment below!